Portrait of me by Iotoff
“Don’t feel bad about anything. YOU ARE AN AMAZING WRITER! Always remember that! I believe that and so do your other friends. You were also one of the few people I opened up to, which is one of the most difficult things for me. The fact that you have this incredible ability to put people at ease is what makes you a journalist with a promising future. Don’t give a tinker’s damn about anything else!” replied a long distance friend to my Facebook message, which was informing where I am currently, and how I had to urgently leave Africa couple of weeks ago due to heath issues.
Few days ago while still in Ghana, I was grumbling over the vulgar Ghanaian men, the dangerous driving and the reckless ants whose bites were as stingy as my despondent housemate. Life in Ghana was tough for me who had arrived there alone, without the support of an organisation or a company, and with what I discovered on the spot to be “poor savings”.
But I was satisfied with myself for not carrying the symptom of our sickened era, which cultivates fears of failure, pseudo-security and fears of being abnormal to those who dare to aim at creation over survival. I grew up in Greece; a society, which has been structured on individuality. During the Ottoman Empire, Greeks were not only scared of the state, which was an actual enemy but they also experienced the threat of extinction of their cultural and ethnic identity. In order to defend their language, traditions and religion, they organised themselves in close domestic groups: children, parents and grandparents. Since then, the family has been Greeks’ mere concern and the only institution they could trust. Everything outside it is alien and hostile.
“You wanted to play the hero and save Ghana. But Ghana doesn’t give a shit about you” said a friend of my parents, pointing on my skinny self, the day I came out of the Athenian hospital with the diagnosis, who was totally against me traveling to Africa at first place. I didn’t try to explain to him that I was only serving an idea, and I couldn’t see barriers; I could only see means to reach my goal. Within two months in Ghana, and being the manager of myself, I got an internship with the country’s oldest and most respective newspaper; I got an offer for a job at the media office of an international NGO, and I had started the research for one of my big-to-be stories. No one had promised me it was going to be easy: I was insanely missing my other half; I was noticing the side effects of the doxycycline long before they reached their last stage, I was feeling lonely, I was scared of dying in a car accident, and I was poor. But I was walking the path of journalism.
“Don’t be too hard on yourself. And more importantly, try and stay positive. You have the skills, the passion and the ambition. That has not changed. You made Ghana happen, and you will make other opportunities happen. I have the fullest faith in you” were the words of someone who knows me better than I do know myself.
Ghana is a past, and what begun three months ago as a dream coming true, is already a memory that has thrown me into mourning; a grief for the stories that won’t be written – not by me, the places I didn’t see, the dresses I didn’t make, the Malta I didn’t drink, the people I had to say goodbye to – and those whom I didn’t have a last dance with; a grief for the future I could have shaped ifmy body hadn’t betray me. 2013 betrayed me from its beginning. When Nietzsche was talking about liberation, he was referring to the recognition and acceptance of your misfortune. But how do you accept the fact that what you saw it was just an oasis on the desert? Desert again, and you are not even thirsty anymore.
“If I got at least a smirk out of you… I am happy… sometimes we forget that life is too good, to be taken so serious…” wrote a loyal friend in response to my dark thoughts.
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